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It's a long story, but basically I got a girlfriend for about a year and she was the closest a human being will ever be to me, had similar tastes and everything and understood me like no one else, but she got sick and died because of unhealthy life choices and hereditary health issues, now I remember perfectly that before her, I had no trouble being alone, and I was so self centered it was almost as if I saw myself as a fictional character to observe and not my real life, I even considered myself to have 0 attraction to 3d human beings, but now I'm depressed and feel really alone, I don't want someone else as I still don't feel attracted to real people, I just wish I could bring her back, but since I can't I'd like advice on being ok with being a loner again

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You acknowledge that you wouldn't feel this way if you hadn't met someone you cared about as much as or more than yourself. Now consider this: everyone you pass on the street could be what she was to you, only for someone else. Spread the love your girlfriend taught you to feel, and in that way she'll be with you always; as a saint, as your own guardian angel.
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I made teh joke ban message b4 I actually read ur post and saw that she died. We've had a lot of crappy emo posts lately and I thought this was another. Gomennasai and condolences :sweat2:

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I'm sorry for your loss. I have never experienced something that tragic and devastating.
I've meditated on loneliness, it's a feeling everybody feels and I think it's important for us to feel this way as it encourages us to make new experiences with people. It's a disease best cured by simply being around individuals you like. In addition you will cure their loneliness as well. So finding some local friends might help.

You mustn't hate it, it's a natural feeling though I know it hurts.

It's going to hurt for long time, but grin and bear it for her sake.
One day that feeling will have scarred over.
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Take as much as time as you need to process that she's passed on and liek Bishopu said, try to reach out to other people in the meantime so that you're not alone. Much as that may be difficult to do. The last time I lost a loved one was when I was so young I couldn't understand it properly. If it's any consolation, I can't remember much about my grandma from as a child, but you as an adult can remember much more about your girlfriend. Try to think of those memories you created together in stride, not in grief.
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My advice?

I also was a somewhat loner type guy, until I fell in love with an absolutely perfect girl. I mean, I know I don't have love goggles on, she was genuinely perfect. She was the most beautiful girl I'd ever seen, she was funny, she was smart, we shared the same interests, and she loved me back. I was totally obsessed with her for a long time, I thought about her every day

I don't want to include too many private details, but in short, her family didn't approve of our relationship, and they stopped her from seeing me as often. We still communicated in secret, but our constant absence from eachother slowly weakened things, until eventually, after almost 2 years of this constrained situation, she had a nervous breakdown (due to the stress of her life, and other things unrelated to me), after which, she had become so hysterical, that she lost her mind, and became a mental idiot, as well as losing her warmth towards me and her family. What has happened to her now... heaven only knows.

This was extremely upsetting to me, and plunged me into a depression. I decided to cope with it by abandoning 3D girls once more, since no new girlfriend (if I could even manage to get one) would compare to her perfectness. I eventually settled and got used to this more lonesome lifestyle. I don't think theres any tips, you just get used to it.
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you needn't ever part with her if you can recover her body and keep it

in seriousness i'd probably snap if that happened to me, so at least you're still sane ^^;
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It's not like I chose to like being alone :nyaoo-closedeyes:
Since you're asking, my crappy suggestions are
- Drown yourself in booze for a little while if it elevates your mood
- Remove anything reminiscent of her including mementos/pictures, condition yourself to not think about her
- Read romantic eroge where you can feel love towards a 2D girl instead
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all you can really do is let time flow. its not exactly the same thing but my best friend killed himself 10 years ago, its still hard sometimes but nowadays i think about the happy times more than the sad ones. i still miss him of course but it is easier now and i dont let it ruin my life in the way it did when i was younger. good luck anon, i hope things improve for you


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