>no opposition to putting them back if they clean up their site
>or going on the friends list again if heyuri decides to moderate this kind of content more carefully
You can do whatever, but make no mistake: Heyuri IS moderated "very carefully", and is "cleaned up" - there's just a difference in what we want over here VS what j00 want over there

You have appropriate moderation for the end result you want to achieve, and so does Heyuri!