If the situation regarding kokonotsuba/kolyma has changed since we've spoken about it, then maybe u should let me know about it

>BTW, I never asked you to censor yourself. I have been trying to keep drama away, but gave up when you said something along the lines of unfunny arguing/drama is part of human nature.. Which honestly made no sense at the time. Go to 4chan or something if you liek to argue, but don't try to involve the rest of humanity in your hobby.
You effectively did ask me to censor myself, and you're taking my words way out of context - I was talking about "shutting down any and all signs of conflict/dissent and sweeping it under the rug of private channels" (which is what you were doing at that time) VS "letting everyone discuss and resolve things peacefully in public" (which you were not doing). For transparency, here's the exact conversation:

You (2022/05/06)
>I didn't really ban there, it's a band-aid solution to the situation. You can post if you really want, but expect it to get deleted. If you really want to discuss, you can do so with kuz in private and he would be happy to explain you.. But I wouldn't bother that far in your situation

Me
>the solution is for everyone to talk things out peacefully, and only punish those who aren't interested in discussing in earnest. that's how you reach compromises and learn to see from each others' perspectives - by being open and honest with each other
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>shutting discussions down at the first sign of "conflict" never works - it just turns the situation into a pressure cooker where frustrations and resentments boil and fester and until something sparks and the whole thing a spl0des
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>that is exactly what happened before with TEH DRAMA of 2020, with the events that led to kuz stepping down, and pretty much every major drama and conflict evar (;´Д`)
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>and when i say talk things out, i mean publicly - not behind closed doors where nobody can see it and nobody can chime in with their additional thoughts and viewpoints

You
>I think conflicts are simply unnecessary and unfun. Not even worth talking over, but seems I am in a minority with this view
>I think the day is saved, so I won't do what I mentioned yesterday for now - but I doubt this is settled or I won't get headaches for this in the future. I would be happy to proven wrong of course

Me
>i don't know who said it originally, and there are many different variations, but there's an old quote that goes: "peace is not the absence of conflict, but the ability to cope with it"
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>conflicts aren't fun at all, but sadly they're a natural and unavoidable part of human interaction - especially on the interwebs where there's no facial expression, body language, tone of voice, etc. - but the same also applies to IRL
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>assuming that the parties involved are arguing in good faith and are intent on reaching solutions, stamping out all avenues for peaceful resolution doesn't resolve conflicts - it exacerbates them. when the option of peaceful (relatively speaking) discussion is removed, eventually frustrations will grow to the point where even more drastic measures are taken, i.e. users/staff leaving forever, mass exoduses, coup attempts, widespread slander across the interwebs, spam/ddos attacks... i've seen it all too many times (;´Д`)
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>moderation isn't just about baleeting things and enforcing rules/policies - it's also about being a community mediator, resolving disputes, and preventing all of those "worst case scenarios" mentioned above. a single day out of every 50 containing some mildly heated debate is far preferable to 50 days out of every 50 containing a tyrannical and/or abandoned board

You
>i c ur point, but am too ignorant on the topic to reply (´Д`)
>As long as things work out peacefully - where I know I will be useful at the most - and users don't leave the site for being drama infested I am fine with it

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