>>1654
painful reality: showing spine after people have grown used to you being a doormat will have them think you suddenly became a bitch
if you meet someone and have always spoken your mind, they will simply be like "ah, ___ has always been that way" and not think too hard about it

as far as I can tell, this is the true form of "nice guys finish last"
it is more like "no one is willing to accept someone seeming to become less nice"