1. Because America is viewed worldwide as high status country, you are an aristocrat thanks to your passport essentially and everyone likes to marry an aristocrat over a peasant. It's better to marry someone whose ancestors have a history of winning wars rather than those who were decimated and humiliated. Both extremes often go in chain of victory after victory or loss after loss.

2. America is a decent country to raise a family in. Lots of land, global domination so no external threats, effective police, top medicine, few laws towards how kids should be raised or how you can manage your own land in comparison to any other first world country. Feels very assuring. Men and women like to have a safe place to have a family. Spouse's passport is also an easy way to exit the country in case things go bad. Women seem to like security very much - not high risk and high rewards in unstable countries. There is no woman I know of who gambled, drunk/smoked until passed out, got into serious fights, or sold drugs - while every second dude I know did at least one.

3. Everything america is cool. Same case in europe. Same case everywhere. And an american husband must be cool too? What a great opportunity to show her female friends she is cooler than them. A general truth is that if you hump a woman expect all her friends to know your size and whether you are good or not - they like to gossip, brag and judge. She would receive positive gossips or gain lots of attention for such marriage.

4. Because they are limited quantity as 144441-san said. You might not get a second chance! Even if one night - she would have something to brag about.

5. I am not too sure how much it is a human instinct but since women are the choosers of mates they would aim for best genes and best genes often come from genetic diversity. If an outsider-man lived to adulthood and prospers - then it is safe to assume that his genes are not too bad. Having a family with someone out of tribe is somewhat an accelerated evolution since more genes are swapped in comparison to regular generation to generation mutations inside a group - and women like to have the fittest offspring. I am not a woman but that is what I suspect.


Men seem to just like any woman that wants to stay with him forever and she looks healthy enough to have children. The healthier - the more wanted by men, a source of why men have an obsession with porn where the healthiest women of earth are shown - no skin defects, sweet voice suggesting perfect health, perfect limbs and body in general that looks like she is easy to dominate so that man gets least headache with her, wide hips for giving birth, big breasts to feed man's children and so on - all about health and not distracting the man from hard labor. It is men who approach and get a million rejections and not the other way around. Woman on the other hand has to choose one from that endless sea because 9 months of vulnerability and a weak kid in the house of a poor man who would be a failure genetically as much as men not mating at all or mating the worst ones. What a dynamic.

What is the obsession that women have like men to porn? Men can think all day about a womans body and escape into fantasies about them. I would guess the thing that they fantasize about all day and wish to experience is status and riches. Every woman I see in public watches rich women showing off, how to apply cosmetics like a god, best perfumes, checking out new clothes and so on and buying much. I suppose it is to attract the one best man to her as that is what men are attracted by. Man brings riches and woman her body, what a trade. But that is besides the point.

Tens of thousands of years ago it was women who joined other human groups, never men. They were the medium that carried genetic diversity to prevent inbreeding. I wonder if it is innate and functioning today as much as it used to be. Tens of thousands of years of this occurance cannot be pointless. Maybe that is why women want an outsider-husband more than a man wants an outsider-wife. Men have a sex drive that aims for sufficiently healthy woman, not a perfect one because if they aim too high and don't get accepted by a woman their genes are doomed. Because they can't just steal one today. Plot of the Illiad is about a man who stole a woman