>>129393
What's the point of having a gf if you can't do the things you want with her?

>Crossdressing is the kind of fetish that alters other people's perception of you
I had a gf to whom I confessed my submissive fantasies to early on, and it turns out she was very much into it. So there was no perception to be destroyed and it was a lot of fun.

>prone to be discussed around
If she's presenting your kink as shameful then it's shameful for her too, so it's unlikely she'd gossip about it. But even if she did, who cares? If you live your life according to the whims of others you'll be filled with regret when you get old, having realized you missed your chances to do many of the things you wanted to, and all for people who don't care about you.